Emotional Intelligence

Professional Acumen and Ethics together provide an environment for logical prediction of the Future.  Ethics builds consistency throughout complex relationships.  Professional Acumen communications builds consistency in interacting with others to work together in those complex relationships.

Becoming able to predict and rely on “useful” efforts of other people, provides the ability not just to predict the future with a degree of accuracy.  Professional Acumen activities and ethics provide an environment to accurately build a “chosen” desired Future.


Undependable personal traits in ourselves, makes our own future unpredictable.  No one should feel singled out here.  Self-deception is a common human trait we all struggle with from day to day.  But those worthy of trust, are more active in being honest with themselves, and taking action in identifying and practicing skills to overcome their own shortcomings.

Those who chose to be unethical occasionally, or occasionally fail to express Professional Acumen, are shunned by those wanting to build a “useful” and “desirable” future.  The most useful people for building a future do not want to waste their valuable  time and resources on people that are not willing to learn new skills, or are untrustworthy in caring for an offered opportunity.

Interestingly, people skilled in rationalizing self-deceit, are the least trusted, most self-destructive, most likely to become shunned by family, and experience the harshest future imposed upon them.  Rationalizing Self-Deceit prevents taking useful actions to build a desired future.  Rationalizing Self-Deceit makes a person an unimportant piece that is used by others when convenient; when the risks they represent can be controlled.  Low value activities.

Useful to Self

“Useful” people actively learn to teach themselves new skills that are “Useful” to others.  Boredom is a trait of someone uninterested in their own future.

“Excessive” playing of video games, going shopping, putting off homework, useless web surfing, wilful engagement in distractions, hanging out for no useful purpose … are acts of “Avoidance”.

Effective people recognize attempts of Self-Deceit and take control of Avoidance by making a list of Actions leading toward Outcomes.  Accessing priorities, and  work on getting the resources together to take action and shorten the list of priorities.

Risk taking can be fun, if the limits of harm can reasonably be limited.  Unfortunately, without learning to consistently express Professional Acumen, and regularly having thoughtful considerations for ethics, reasonable risk is not possible.  The person makes “foolish” (out of control with diverse and excessive risk for harm).

Humans are fundamentally self-centered. But we learn quickly we are more capable of achieving our desires by interacting with others.  We center our perceived position among others, and associate perceived traits linked to each of those people.  By associating traits, we attempt to find value and fault in everyone we interact with.

Very often, people are aware of how they are expressing themselves in other people’s eyes.  Body language and empathy constantly communicating between people.

Occasionally people ask themselves:  “What traits do I consistently express, that others worthy of my trust, see in myself?”.

Rare is when a person is honest with themselves, and identifies their own perceived shortcomings, characterize their own weaknesses, seek mentors to build strengths from weaknesses, and practice strengths to overcome weaknesses.

Every trait of humans is learned, including acts of Avoidance, and rationalizing personal ineffectiveness.  These are learned traits that

We attempt to find fault and usefulness in everyone.  We associate general traits with desirable and destructive outcomes.  Though not useful in characterizing other people, it is useful in characterizing our own weaknesses.

Racism is based in admiration of others, and unmet desire in having identified perceived traits in ourselves.  Humans continuously seek to give ourselves value.  Self-esteem is provided by others.

Where our personal traits at that moment are undesirable, we rationalize our position of value based on unrealistic perspectives to support our own self-deceit.  The easy effort, but not the useful effort.  We rationalize superiority of ourselves mentally and rationalize our own position among others.  Ask a homeless person, or mentally ill, or accomplished business person, the outcome is the same, each holds themselves mentally in a superior self-centered position to others.

However, the person that recognizes their own shortcomings and thoughtfully and reasonably “acts” to “practice” traits that converts weaknesses into strengths, usefully moves their position among other people.  Our outlook changes as we become more useful to other people we reasonably trust.

Everyone has a complex system of traits.  If “Person A” trusts “Person B” who has self-destructive traits.  Chances are “Person A” has shortcomings that prevent them from predicting related consequences.  “Person B” is undeserving of trust if they are self-destructive.  At some point , a foolish person who takes unreasonable risks, will similarly become self-destructive.

We identify shortcomings in ourselves and in other people.  We give other people the opportunity to work towards building an end to their shortcomings.  We ourselves must give ourselves a chance to work towards building an end to our own shortcomings.  We must build a foundation upon which to sustainably stand, to interact in the Future we want our life to become.

Self-Deception is our enemy.

Emotional Intelligence helps us communicate risks. Social Accumen helps us navigate social systems. While Critical Thinking/Reasoning helps better define ethical useful relationships.

Emotional Intelligence allows a person to interpret a great many Social variables and assign relative values in the Present.  Humans tend to talk to themselves mentally; cognition.  Something like two brains with largely shared memory.  We tell ourselves stories on every social encounter: accessing risks, opportunities, liabilities, usefulness, waste, interrelationships … These stories tend to describe how a person or situation came about, to be able to project the scenario into the future to determine related risks, and formulate related actions.

Unfortunately, most people have not correlated situational-cause accurately in the past, and made decisions that caused themselves harm.  So from learned past events, they over compensate to reduce perceived liabilities.  The actions they choose to take tend to be perceived as safe,  but without regard to impact on lost opportunities, or that other likely scenarios may instead have been the cause.

We tell ourselves stories about why a person acted a certain way. We choose the story that limits our perceived risks. But we unreasonably create risks for losing related opportunities related to that person. We need to manage reasonable risks, and choose to accept better stories when we formulate unreasonable risks.

Emotional Intelligence helps to get the most out of interpersonal interactions as assets, while also limiting related liabilities.

“The Case for Emotional Intelligence in Health Care”

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Emotional Intelligence 2.0


People ethically working together that have developed skills of Self-Respect, convey through body language and voice inflections their confidence in what is being expressed.  Body Language and Voice Inflection can simultaneously convey logic, social, and emotional relationships expressed through writing, voice, art, or even physical touch; each with different confidence in the related expression.

To attempt to logically break Emotional Intelligence into tools to act on separately, requires significant study, practice, and evaluation.

However, we can through general practice learn generalized expression of these skills through the method of Learning to Teach Professional Acumen.

The process of expressing skills in Critical Thinking and Critical Reasoning, provokes body language and voice inflections of team members.  Because of the focused effort, mis-interpretations of body language and voice inflections can be adjusted towards more accurate interpretations.

The goal in 3-person teams, is to learn broadly from each other.  Get to know how needed expressions in solving a problem, are expressed differently from different life perspectives.

There are many other forms of interaction for teaching common sense.  However, specific needs of clients, relate to Guidepost staff related services.

Though the design of this tool mentions artifacts of discrimination, the intent is to mutually communicate the actual differences to get on common ground. To put up a wall and say “I won’t see” ensures social disparity and discriminatory treatment.  The 3-person method of teaching common sense, does just that, it teaches how different people have different life experiences, and different life skills, express themselves related to engaging common social practices.  By “recognizing” these differences and comparing them to our own expressions; we find common ground.

The rich environment of learned expressions based on cultural, gender, subculture diversity, age, race, color, religion, sex, and national origin, enrich our understanding of our own expressions.  Diversity gives us a larger emotional vocabulary to express greater details in managing risks.  Accurately managing risks allows a team to create a combined intellect, to fill gaps for each other, and to accurately identify when there is a need for additional expertise (research or experts) to fill reasoning gaps.

Expertise, may come from research on the internet (always the first place to start), other members of the team not present, and other people who do not threaten the security of the team.

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